BDSM is like art work- its beauty is perceived through the eye of the beholder. BDSM involves intellectualism,imagination & intimacy.
We support education,socialization, and acceptance of this higher form of priveleged awareness.
and inspire positive exploration while restoring the old fundamental values and techniques of traditional BDSM in a modern day vibrant and curious mode.
interesting how my post was deleted after i inquired qs to the purpose.really i qm wondering where you about? hmm will this query be deleted too?
Im sorry to hear that your post has been deleted. I have been terribly busy working on the marketing of other sites and links that i regretfully did not watch over this site- but finally I have caught up. To answer your question regarding our quest- let me begin with an introduction since I have surprisingly not yet been introduced here as a co-founder and partner in this venture. For a decade Sebastion and I have discussed the formality of bdsm schooling as the scene seemed to shift in many "commercial" ways. It seemed like Dominatrices were crawling out of the cracks with new titles and the real fetish players were seeking experience and the old virtues of BDSM that seems to be lacking in today's world. Fetish will continue and grow more popular as a sub-culture, our goal is to see that it remains safe, and explorable maintaining technique, mind control etc... We will be selecting teachers with vast amounts of experience to substantiate out goals. We will also host parties that will emphasize group interaction and safe congregation. We look forward to imput and meeting everyone that bears the same interests as us.
Mistress Cristian
Fetish has taken a beating in the mainstream culture due to the lack of available knowledge and its undeserving reputation. Interestingly enough, I like to refer to it as 'rubber-necking' as there is much curiosity along with fear. But there is a reason why men seek out the service of a Dominatrix. And a majority of these men are either married or engagedin committed loving relationships.
I have been a exploring and researching Fetish for a decade now. I have explored the fantasies, needs and desires of mainstream American and European men. I know more about them as individuals than their wives, friends and even therapists. What I practice and preach is an important element that revolves around human sexuality. Any desire that is suppressed is unhealthy and needs to be dealt with. And the individual needs to be comfortable expressing these needs. And that is where my explanation begins.
First we need to abandon the term S&M otherwise known as sadism and masochism. When a loved one steps into the role as the dominant, it is not insinuated that the 'submissive' is going to be beaten to a bloody pulp. Fetish revolves around the exchange of power. One person gives up the power as the other achieves it. Once this role is defined, then the fantasies revolve around each individual need. We must also recognize that being 'submissive' is a choice and a role that one decides to step into.
The first revolves around the concept of giving up control. These particular "players" are in high- powered positions and the release of control is a vacation for them, a safe haven and place of peace. I might consider alternatives styles of restriction for a person of this nature such as bondage, sensory deprivation, and other similar forms that physically keep them surrendered in my presence. The second type of "explorer" is resurrecting feelings of sexuality from the past. There is a distinct relationship to their first sexual experiences and erection tied to certain stimuli and memories. Thus I might speak to a "player" who wears panty-hose because he recalls having a crush on his babysitter who made him wear them as a joke. Or another who remembers receivingan over the knee spanking from his mother or a sexy teacher that evoked an erection. The final most common cause for role-play simply involves the body and our genetic make-up. People’s bodies are wired as differently as their minds. Pain is pleasure to one but less so to another. A simple spanking can produce an orgasm. Nipple clamps can cause an erection. And never underestimate that male g-spot. Do most women even know it exists? My guess is that the ratio of dildos sold is evenly spread between men and women. Our goal is to teach and inform women of their men's desires and vice versa. By teaching technique and coaching on the psychology of power exchange , the objective is to intensify their existing relationships. Part of loving someone is in acceptance. Sharing these fantasies with your partner will likely lessen the volume of my business yet bring more intimacy and less monotony into your own.
Perez Hilton doesn't get all the fuss. The influential blogger is trying to make sense of the dizzying controversy surrounding Rihanna's tongue-wagging video for her new single 'S&M.' The kinky clip features the raven-haired hell-raiser sporting a skin-tight pink latex outfit and other bondage clothing while being hounded by reporters wearing ball gags. The fallout? 'S&M' has already been flagged by YouTube, reportedly banned in 11 countries and edited down by MTV.
Hilton appears in the clip, playfully being walked like a dog (leash and all) by Ri-Ri and pretending to pee on a fire hydrant. "That was Rihanna's idea," a laughing Perez tells PopEater. "I really don't think it's that controversial. I think that people just want it to be controversial."
Hear more from Hilton and check out Rihanna's 'S&M' video, after the jump.
Hilton, however, does admit that when he was first asked to appear in the 'S&M' video, he was a bit apprehensive out of respect for Rihanna. "I wanted to make sure that Rihanna was comfortable with the idea and it wasn't something the director was pushing," he says. "So I spoke to the director, Melina [Matsoukas], and she told me it was actually Rihanna's idea herself to have me be in the video. I was blown away and so flattered. I instantly said yes."
Watch Rihanna's 'S&M' video (Warning: Adult Content):
The blogger says that while he had riotous fun on the set of 'S&M,' being on all fours all day was a chore. "It was a lot of hard work," he muses. "It's not easy to walk around like a dog. [Laughs] I had kneepads on, and I still left the set bruised and battered because of the friction against my knees. But I would do it all again because the response has been phenomenal."
Of course, the powerful tastemaker, who helped launch the superstar career of ubiquitous headline-maker Lady Gaga, is used to being associated with controversial artists. But even Hilton is impressed by the hoopla that Rihanna's 'S&M' music video has so far received.
"Even though the video has been flagged by YouTube it's still gotten over 2 million views in a little over a day," Hilton says. "If it hadn't been flagged as inappropriate, it would have two or three times that number!"
I am not much of a fan of Rihanna's simply because all of her songs sound pretty much the same. I like her videos, though, because they are usually outrageous and it's fun to see what bizarre getups she'll be in next. As far as this one goes, I have to say I do think she's pushing the envelope a bit, but she may as well do it while she's still young and popular enough to get away with it.
This might be one of the better songs that she's done in awhile. And as far as the video goes, I have no problem with it. Aren't we adults? I know they show worse than this video on regular TV. This whole "Ban" thing might just be a play for pub. Rhianna even looks better than usual.
No sorry, You need to WAKE UP and realize that THIS kind of GARBAGE is NOT ACCEPTABLE Period, end of discussion! YOU need to be lead around with a dog leash!
Yeah, real prudes...uneducated teen having babies, then raising another generation of stupid humans. Paying any money to see this trash video is a waste of their welfare checks.
What does this BULLYING aspiring gossip flag have to say thats relevent. NEVER have i read his blog since he outs and smears peoples reputation. This THing called perez Hilton is as fake as his name. He looks as if hes been reincarnated from a pig.
Now we know why Perez is pushing it! Short memory, we just did this with Christina A. Rihanna is not the same girl who first came out. I want the old one. Now we know why little girls and teens do what they do.
Two groups of people live for the chance to trash the minds of others: Africans and Hollywood trash. You have to wonder how many times Janet Jackson practiced her boob routine to make sure it came off just when she wanted it to. PIGS PIGS PIGS!!!
Apparently music just doesn't cut it anymore. These girls feel like they have to shock people to get their attention rather than to use their talents. And I love how Perez is trying to act like he respects people now.
Lilly, You said it! What ever happened to a real song, instead of all this repetitive junk, real dancing, and no gimmicks? This video just proves that pop music from some of the best artists has gone to the dogs- pun intended!
Walked like a dog? How about humanely put to sleep at the nearest pound? This worthless wad of drooling DNA deserves not one molecule of attention or respect, and I only wonder how long the stick was she had up its arse. (Hey, he/she likes it!)
Perez Hilton doesn't get all the fuss. The influential blogger is trying to make sense of the dizzying controversy surrounding 
she should have used Rob Shuter instead of Perez.