Fetish has taken a beating in the mainstream culture due to the lack of available knowledge and its undeserving reputation. Interestingly enough, I like to refer to it as 'rubber-necking' as there is much curiosity along with fear. But there is a reason why men seek out the service of a Dominatrix. And a majority of these men are either married or engaged in committed loving relationships.
I have been a exploring and researching Fetish for a decade now. I have explored the fantasies, needs and desires of mainstream American and European men. I know more about them as individuals than their wives, friends and even therapists. What I practice and preach is an important element that revolves around human sexuality. Any desire that is suppressed is unhealthy and needs to be dealt with. And the individual needs to be comfortable expressing these needs. And that is where my explanation begins.
First we need to abandon the term S&M otherwise known as sadism and masochism. When a loved one steps into the role as the dominant, it is not insinuated that the 'submissive' is going to be beaten to a bloody pulp. Fetish revolves around the exchange of power. One person gives up the power as the other achieves it. Once this role is defined, then the fantasies revolve around each individual need. We must also recognize that being 'submissive' is a choice and a role that one decides to step into.
The first revolves around the concept of giving up control. These particular "players" are in high- powered positions and the release of control is a vacation for them, a safe haven and place of peace. I might consider alternatives styles of restriction for a person of this nature such as bondage, sensory deprivation, and other similar forms that physically keep them surrendered in my presence.
The second type of "explorer" is resurrecting feelings of sexuality from the past. There is a distinct relationship to their first sexual experiences and erection tied to certain stimuli and memories. Thus I might speak to a "player" who wears panty-hose because he recalls having a crush on his babysitter who made him wear them as a joke. Or another who remembers receiving an over the knee spanking from his mother or a sexy teacher that evoked an erection.
The final most common cause for role-play simply involves the body and our genetic make-up. People’s bodies are wired as differently as their minds. Pain is pleasure to one but less so to another. A simple spanking can produce an orgasm. Nipple clamps can cause an erection. And never underestimate that male g-spot. Do most women even know it exists? My guess is that the ratio of dildos sold is evenly spread between men and women.
Our goal is to teach and inform women of their men's desires and vice versa. By teaching technique and coaching on the psychology of power exchange , the objective is to intensify their existing relationships. Part of loving someone is in acceptance. Sharing these fantasies with your partner will likely lessen the volume of my business yet bring more intimacy and less monotony into your own.
I have been a exploring and researching Fetish for a decade now. I have explored the fantasies, needs and desires of mainstream American and European men. I know more about them as individuals than their wives, friends and even therapists. What I practice and preach is an important element that revolves around human sexuality. Any desire that is suppressed is unhealthy and needs to be dealt with. And the individual needs to be comfortable expressing these needs. And that is where my explanation begins.
First we need to abandon the term S&M otherwise known as sadism and masochism. When a loved one steps into the role as the dominant, it is not insinuated that the 'submissive' is going to be beaten to a bloody pulp. Fetish revolves around the exchange of power. One person gives up the power as the other achieves it. Once this role is defined, then the fantasies revolve around each individual need. We must also recognize that being 'submissive' is a choice and a role that one decides to step into.
The first revolves around the concept of giving up control. These particular "players" are in high- powered positions and the release of control is a vacation for them, a safe haven and place of peace. I might consider alternatives styles of restriction for a person of this nature such as bondage, sensory deprivation, and other similar forms that physically keep them surrendered in my presence.
The second type of "explorer" is resurrecting feelings of sexuality from the past. There is a distinct relationship to their first sexual experiences and erection tied to certain stimuli and memories. Thus I might speak to a "player" who wears panty-hose because he recalls having a crush on his babysitter who made him wear them as a joke. Or another who remembers receiving an over the knee spanking from his mother or a sexy teacher that evoked an erection.
The final most common cause for role-play simply involves the body and our genetic make-up. People’s bodies are wired as differently as their minds. Pain is pleasure to one but less so to another. A simple spanking can produce an orgasm. Nipple clamps can cause an erection. And never underestimate that male g-spot. Do most women even know it exists? My guess is that the ratio of dildos sold is evenly spread between men and women.
Our goal is to teach and inform women of their men's desires and vice versa. By teaching technique and coaching on the psychology of power exchange , the objective is to intensify their existing relationships. Part of loving someone is in acceptance. Sharing these fantasies with your partner will likely lessen the volume of my business yet bring more intimacy and less monotony into your own.
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